BeAwesome: #317 How to Accept #Criticism
Criticism is not for the weak
What is the meaning of criticism? The expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. An analysis and judgment of a literary or artistic work. To be critiqued or reviewed.
Criticism is something we all have to deal with. Some of us are good at it, and some of us flat-out stink. Growing up, I never really noticed when I was being critiqued or reviewed. In school (university), teachers would watch my presentations. While playing sports, coaches would critique my play. When others would give me feedback, I would never take offence to what they were saying. I never really thought about it as criticism (but it was). I embraced the facts, and use it to get an A+ instead of a B. 5 more points to make 10. I was blessed with the idea that it was simple help (which it truly is/depending on how you take it). I never really thought about it as anything else.
Unfortunately this is not the case for everyone. When someone speaks to us about our skill, we act different. People “take offence”. Many of us show anger. Some of us go as far as physical involvement. Our body language changes and our tone of voice becomes different. Why? We often forget what others are trying to do for us. We forget how to act like professionals amongst one another. When being reviewed | critiqued | judged | in a proper manner, we need to sit back and take it all in. How do you get something from this experience? Here are some simple things to remember:
Know matter what is said you must consider it some form of feedback. This can be tough. What if it is not what you want to hear? Guess what? It very may well be. BUT you need to suck it up and use the feedback to better what ever it is you are doing. Feedback is what makes you approve. Feedback allows you to see what you need to practice or work on. Accept feedback and use it to keep the motivation alive
Be a good listener
The point of criticism is to get feedback (see above) and you can’t receive good feedback if you are not listening. You will run into people who you do not like (that is life). You will not want to listen to these people. Matter of fact, you may possibly not stand to even look at them. BUT. You still need to be a good listener. A friend use to tell me, “take something out of every conversation you have, and use it to your advantage”, and this is exactly what you have to do with criticism. Give your undivided attention even if it hurts. You will receive something that will benefit you, if you listen.
Reply with manners
Sometimes your trigger instinct is to respond in defence. In a different tone or manner. If you want to really get something out of this experience you need to reply with manners. Who cares, if it is not what you wanted to hear. Be a professional and take it like a grown-up. Why add more fuel to the fire. Even if you disagree with everything they are saying, say “thank you”. You do not have to go and do what ever they say. They are giving you ideas and suggestions for next time. It is up to you to put them into place if you think it will influence the results for the next time. If you want to be respected by others, you should probably do the same to them (even if they do not show it to you. Be the bigger person)
Criticism is the pathway to success
Criticism builds character. It gives you an idea of what you need to do to get better at what you love or need to get done. You can ask questions. Find out what others think about your progress. Everyone who is successful, used criticism to build on what they have to get what they got. It takes a lot to stand there and listen to someone critique you. Talk about you, and review what you’ve done. Know matter what they say, you should benefit from the conversation. Whether it causes you to work harder or change a few ideas, it is all-beneficial in the process of being successful.