If I was your Bestfriend, I’d want you Round All the Time

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Do you currently have a best friend? Or someone you know you can depend on when times get tough, need a laugh or share a secret? If you want to find someone, most people have to wait or build  years of trust, commitment and understanding before this title is given. Best friends don’t magically appear in thin air (do they?). They usually come unexpected and are built on experiences you go through together.

How do you find a best friend?

What qualities do you look for?

Most children by the age of 3-5, according to AboutOurKids.com have developed an imaginary friend. Why are imaginary friends good? Well they usually do what ever you want, never talk back and disappear upon request. They also prepare you for when a “real” friend comes a long. If you have never had a best friend, practice with an imagery friend. Best friends talk back!

Finding the Right Person

It is not easy to find someone you enjoy being around, enjoy talking to and don’t mind telling stories to. Some of these experiences, that you cherish are not meant for “just” anyone. You want to share them with people you care about (just a little bit more than everyone else). Finding the right person is often the part most people don’t understand. 1. You can’t make someone into your best friend & 2. Don’t pressure them into doing so.

I have 4 really good friends. These are people I’ve shared experiences, stories and secrets with. They understand me because we’ve gone through most of these experiences together. We’ve bonded and created a trust that is unspoken. Years of ups and downs, and experiences that relied on trust and commitment have passed, and the outcome is people who I consider “best friends”.

I didn’t go looking for these people. And they didn’t go looking for me either. I strongly believe “best friends” just happen. It isn’t something you can’t sign up for, unless you’ve seen bestfriendmatch.com, a place supposedly that allows you to find your best friend. Pretty dumb if you ask me. Either way, it is going to take a lot of work to find this individual(s).

Where do I look?

Before you go out on a wild goose chase, look right in front of you. Give someone a chance to be a part of your life. And if they aren’t exactly what you are looking for, kindly show them by giving them less information and spending less time with them. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person, it simply means you have other things to do, and that person “should” understand that. You have every right to pick and choose who you want to share information with, or allow to enter your life (on a personal level). Never allow anyone to pressure you into doing so.

 Often people who are best friends have a variety of things in common. And sometimes they are total opposite. You can’t go walking in the park thinking you are going to find the perfect friend because you love parks. Does that make sense? No. You have to simply enjoy every encounter, and if you feel there is potential, open up a little and slowly build the trust and commitment you are looking for. WARNING: Blowing the doors off a conversation is a big no, no.  What is blowing the doors off? Giving too much personal information when not needed or asked.

What Happens When I Think They Are the One

Umm. How about ask them? May sound a little silly, but why not? At least you’ll know for sure. If they haven’t popped the question, why can’t you. The worst thing they can say is no right? Some people are too perfect to ask, will you be my friend? Better yet, will you be my best friend? When you are older it is a lot more difficult. When you are younger, you have no idea what you are doing anyways, and you could care less about the results because eventually someone will (hopefully) say yes.

Slowly give information to this individual and (IF) they share back, you have potential right away. If they do not, back off a little and see what they say next. If you still see potential, ask them a question and see if they tell you a sincere answer. If they do not, maybe they need a little more time with you to open up. Or maybe they are not the right person. Note: You can’t share information and expect information to be shared back. Most people don’t operate that way. And remember,  YOU are volunteering to share information, they never asked you to do so.

Take it slow, and ride it out. Be careful with your questions and see how they respond:

Sample questions you could use:

1. Do you have brothers or sisters?/Follow up question: What do they do for a living?

2. What do you like to do for fun? /Follow up question: Do you prefer to do this with friends or alone and why?

3. Who is the most important person in your life? Follow up question: Why?

Use this to get a feel for who the person is, and what they value in a person.

How do I ask a FRIEND out?

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You’ve finally built a relationship with your new friend and you are bored. You want to ask them to do something and you have no idea what you want to do. Before anything, friendship stuff is never usually planned. The first 2 or 3 outings are usually organized really well between the two of you. Everything else after turns into a “your going with me right?” or “I need you to come with me”. And that is what you want it to be like. Unfortunately, you end up doing things you additionally do not want to do, but more often than not you have a good time, and your friend appreciates you a little more for coming with them.

If you are looking for ideas with your new best friend here are some options:

1. Simply hang out and watch re-runs of old television shows

2. Eat ice cream/Order food and gossip (Gossip is bad, but builds relationships)

3. Make pretend you have to go on an errand to the mall or to the grocery store

4. Help babysit a little sister/brother/or animal (dogs are cute)

5. Make pretend you need help fixing something, but have it fixed before they come, offer to stay for a cup of tea or hot chocolate

Conclusion

Best friends can’t be packed and delivered to your front doorstep. If you think you can turn someone into that person you are creating a fire that is going to be very difficult to put out. Give others the time to breathe and make a decision on their own. The best friends are found through experience or surprise. Some people find friends instantly and some people need time. If you honour every conversation and interaction you have with new people, you will slowly see who you want to become closer with. With that, you have to understand that everyone you feel connected with, may not necessarily feel the same way about you. Either way, that doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.

Do you have another way of making friends? How do you know someone is going to be a BFF? Contact use through Twitter: @BeAwesomenow_ca or Facebook: BeAwesomenow . We’d love to hear your response!

Until next time!

#BeAwesome

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4 Things I’ve Learned From Rocky

BeAwesome: #332 4 Things I’ve Learned From Rocky

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MrT&TheRock

Cause if you’re willing to go through all the battling you got to go through to get where you want to get, who’s got the right to stop you? I mean maybe some of you guys got something you never finished, something you really want to do, something you never said to someone, something… and you’re told no, even after you paid your dues? Who’s got the right to tell you that, who? Nobody! It’s your right to listen to your gut, it ain’t nobody’s right to say no after you earned the right to be where you want to be and do what you want to do!… You know, the older I get the more things I gotta leave behind, that’s life.

I am not a huge fan of movies. I try to catch a flick if the buzz is worthy. I try to look in on what the public is saying about a film. I also try to think for my overall interest and self when deciding what to watch or pay for. Ideally, I could care less about movies. But I do appreciate a good film that is well produced and directed.

Recently I’ve taken a time capsule into the 80’s-90’s, and found some of my all time favorite fighting movies. Now don’t get me wrong, I am far from a violent person, but do enjoy a good action film once in a while. I have to tell you the 80’s-90s are full of great films and actors.

Without any debate, I decided to watch Rocky II, which turned into Rocky III, which turned into Rocky IV (Sylvester Stallone). I was easily interested at the very beginning of Rocky II. The theme music and words of inspiration automatically hit my eyes and ears at first glance. I forgot about the hidden messages about love, heart ache and pain, the inspiration in following your dreams, working hard and being motivated. I forgot about a great film and production.

As I watched Rocky II, I started to think about the conversations he (Rocky) would have with the other co-stars during the film: Apollo Creed (Friend/Champion), Adrian (Girlfriend) & Mickey Goldmill (Trainer). These were individuals Rocky would always talk to/or about. If you really take in on the conversations and feelings that were played out during the film, you could start to think of the lessons to be learned from watching the film. I took in 3 Rocky films and this is what I learned from each relationship:

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Creed&Rock

Rocky & Apollo Creed:

Rocky III: Nobody owes nobody nothin’. You owe yourself.

Besides from being the Undisputed Heavyweight Champion of the World and given nicknames such as, The King of Sting, The Master of Disaster, The Prince of Punch, Mr. Creed played a vital role in Rocky’s success as a character (physically & mentally). If you watched the early years of Rocky, you know the underlining of these two characters. In short: Apollo beats Rocky in a spilt decision in Rocky I, and in Rocky II, Rocky win’s in knockout fashion. Through the two films (Particularly Rocky II) you start to see a sense of respect from each fighter. The hard work and dedication between two professional athletes show as they embrace in a fight that means so much more than a belt or a status.

Apollo retired from boxing after the fight, and credited Rocky for his work ethic and hard-fought battles. Balboa and Creed instantly became friends, and Creed decided to help Rocky win in Rocky III.

Friendships should never be taken for granted. You may fight with each other. You may knock each other down. You may even make each other bleed and feel really bad about one another, but even if these things happen, you must understand that friendships are built and created through fight and struggle. Friends hold together because of these experiences. Never lose a friend because of a silly fight. Always remember that the person, the human, the individual is more important.

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Mickey&Rock

Rocky & Mickey Goldmill

Rocky IV: Going in one more round when you don’t think you can – that’s what makes all the difference in your life.

Mickey managed a gym. Rocky was a regular face in his open space at the time at a local boxing club. From the very beginning, when know one thought Rocky would be anything, Mickey knew all along. He eventually, approached Rocky about being his manager. From day one, Mickey was Rocky’s number one supporter. Motivating him when he never thought he could do something. Pushing him to levels everyone else in the world thought he would never reach.

In Rocky III, Mickey becomes ill from a fall. Rocky loses a fight, and loses his mentor and father figure in Mickey. Later Rocky defeats his former opponent in respects to Mickey’s death.

The importance of having a mentor or someone who can guide/help you through life is important. You may think you are super (man or woman) but you are not. Even those with who have the greatest talent need guidance and help with their craft or journey. The art of listening to others and allowing others to speak is becoming non-existent. We think we can do it all by ourselves. Listening to others and taking criticism is a part of life. It is how we learn and become better people.  Having a mentor or someone you can talk to does not make you less of a person. It simply means you are open-minded and able to listen and apply suggestions from others.

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Adrian&Rock

Rocky & Adrian

Rocky IV: I guess what I’m trying to say is, if I can change, and you can change, everybody can change.

Adrian was a close friend of Rocky who simply worked at a pet shop. In Rocky II, Adrian and Rocky would tie the knot and marry. They had a son name Rocky Jr. Over the course of their relationship, they manage to overcome struggles together; Adrian’s pregnancy, Rocky’s fights and lavish life and many other decisions made together between the two.

In Rocky IV, Adrian became a source of stability for Rocky though she never enjoyed the act of fighting. She continued to support and encourage him to do well during each and every fight.

A relationship can mean a lot to an individual. It does not have to be intimate to be a successful relationship. Throughout life we need individuals to keep us grounded. Individuals who will tell us the things our friends and family are scared to say. Everyone needs a boy they can talk to. Everyone needs a girl they can speak with. Relationships are what you make them into. You have the power to make all relationships successful. Having people you can sincerely trust and rely on is important. It gives the person a sense of comfort when speaking or exploring ideas. A good friend is something everyone needs. If you want one, you should start by being one.

Rocky is about facing your fears and pushing yourself to the limit. Creating long-lasting relationships and understanding what it takes to be successful.

Inspiration from the #Rock:

-BeAwesome

The NEW WEBSITE SPLASH PAGE

Hello friends,

Here is a bit of what me and some really talented people (www.qnacreatives.com) have been working on for the best few months. With lots of help and guidance, Be Awesome is taking its level of professionalism, quality and branding to the next level. Why? Well that is what YOU deserve. The support and overwhelming messages received from family, friends and strangers (love me some strangers) have been great. We had no choice but to make this thing a little more than just a brand. We are now officially a lifestyle brand. Promoting a way of life. A purpose. Look for more exciting news to come. This is only the beginning 🙂 Visit our new Facebook page: Beawesomenow

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THE TIME IS NOW PEOPLE! BE AWESOME!

BeAwesome: #321: Stop dreaming and start living

BeAwesome: #321: Stop dreaming and start living

#Live

#Live

Without struggle there is no progress—

I woke up from a dream and looked around. After noticing I was going to be late for work, I quickly washed up, grabbed an apple and headed to the bus. Once I arrived on the bus I started to think. What a nice dream I had.

-What is a dream? A series of thoughts, images and sensations occurring in a person’s mind during sleep.

I was in the park. I was walking with a female friend. With us came a little girl and a little boy. As we walked, I remembered daddy and mommy being called by these two younger children. I remember ice-cream cones falling on the pavement. As we sat near a bench, in a nearby neighbourhood,  the my son yelled “Be Awesome” as he pointed to a young child that we did not know, playing on the playground. The young child was with her mom and older sister. I noticed  a bright sweater with positive words written across the front chest. We smiled, and went on with our day in the park.

While on the bus, an inner smile and joy started to arise. Yes, my dream was over but something stuck with me. Something started to play on my mind. How could I be so happy about a dream? What made me so happy? Something that is not real. Something that is made up. What is stopping me from feeling this way all the time? (This is an important question) This is when I came to a conclusion/and more questions:

Why do we continue to dream (literally) so big and allow ourselves to live an average life? In worst cases, why do we allow others to make these choices for us? How many of you reading this blog have been told what to do with your professional life? Personal life? What to buy? What to eat? And have actually considered all of these things because others said so? Why do we allow others to control different parts of our life. How many times have you said “yes” for the sake of saying yes? How many times have you actually tried to follow your dreams?

#MakesYouHappy

#MakesYouHappy

What do you get from dreaming?

Dreaming is not bad. It is what you do after you dream that is crucial. Do you allow this dream to just be a dream? Do you wake up and try to make this dream reality? Do you write stories and tell everyone about your dreams, but never really try to accomplish them? What do you do? Following a dream or doing something you love can easily decide whether or not your life or lifestyle will be satisfying. In our dreams, everything is perfect (at times). The sweat, tears and hard work that people do in real life does not exist in your dreams. We easily reach our full potential.

“In your dreams, everything is just the way you want it to be”

#TakeALook

#TakeALook

Dreaming is often (“sometimes”) a misconception of what we think and only “want” to happen. How often do we wake up and tell ourselves that we are going to make our dreams come true today (We should be doing this all the time). Do we ever ask ourselves, why not? Why can’t we do what we dream of (Super powers and flying do not count) Why can’t you make that feeling within a dream be real? You can, but it is entirely up to you to make it happen. This happening usually involves hard work.

 Start Living

Allow yourself to be happy every day by following your dreams. When you wake up from something special, give yourself a chance at it in real life. If you fail, so what? Big deal. Everyone must fail before they reach success. Following a dream or pursuing something you love has more value than a normal job or something you dislike. Start today. Stop dreaming and start living the dream.

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: St. Andrews Jr. School: Grade 5: What it means to BE…AWESOME Video

BeAwesome: Grade 5: What it means to BE…AWESOME

About a month or so ago, I had the opportunity to chat with a grade five class at St. Andrews Jr. School, in Antigonish, Nova Scotia, Canada (Thanks Morgan Gero & Carolyn MacDonald :-). I must admit, I was really nervous. It was the youngest group of individuals I’ve ever spoken to about the concept. The students response to my ideas and thoughts and written work was exceptionally well. We talked about the meaning of BE…AWESOME and how they can set goals as individuals and use internal motivation as a power and response to negative energy and thoughts. These students/young adults caught on very fast. Must I add, they surprised me with how smart and intelligent they were (Miss you guys!) I am not the best writer and I often use words and sentence structure that fits me. Sometimes I can be very wordy and confusing. Little did I know, these bright students picked up on ever detail, idea, expression and meaning that I had. Here are the results.. Please watch the entire video 🙂 #Tear#Tear

THANK YOU SO MUCH GRADE 5! #StayAWESOME

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #18 Fear

BEAwesome: #17 Fear

In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure- Bill Cosby 

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Having a passion and goal to become great at something, automatically puts fear into your thought process. With loving something, comes fear. Fear to mess up. Fear to make a mistake or change something you’ve been doing your entire life. For all practical purposes, art is forever and will be at times forever created with fear. What does fear feel like. What does it feel like when being asked to create something great 99.9% of the time without failing. The reasons behind failure are made by those who care less about the nature around them. People give up because they are feared. Fear has shattered the dreams of  “could of been” great scientist, singers, song writers, athletes, doctors, lawyers. These individuals now live a life of dreaming, and wishing they’d followed this fear. This fear of taking a chance on something they love. This fear of observation and personal experience. This fear of a world built around great opportunities. Today you fear consistency. Mixes up priorities. Negative and Positive emotions. Fear is something only the strong can handle and it is up to you to decide whether or not you want to take on that responsibility. Fear

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #10 Drive

BEAwesome: #11 Drive

There’s a drive in me that won’t allow me to do certain things that are easy- Johnny Depp

 

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All of us claim we have drive. Better yet, all of us claim we can drive too,but unfortunately this is untrue.  Are you willing to openly express your passion. Are you pushing your self to the limit every time you practice or work on something you love. Are you sacrificing the right obstacles and moments in your life so you can reach one goal. Are you driving because you want to drive or are you simply the chauffeur to someone else’s fairy tale ending. Do you have friends willing to help you refill this drive when your tank is empty. Will you change the tire when it goes flat at 2am in the morning. Can you drive the distance. Can you drive alone or are you so dependent on passengers you lose focus. Can you drive. Will you drive. Drive

–  BeAwesome