If I was your Bestfriend, I’d want you Round All the Time

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Do you currently have a best friend? Or someone you know you can depend on when times get tough, need a laugh or share a secret? If you want to find someone, most people have to wait or build  years of trust, commitment and understanding before this title is given. Best friends don’t magically appear in thin air (do they?). They usually come unexpected and are built on experiences you go through together.

How do you find a best friend?

What qualities do you look for?

Most children by the age of 3-5, according to AboutOurKids.com have developed an imaginary friend. Why are imaginary friends good? Well they usually do what ever you want, never talk back and disappear upon request. They also prepare you for when a “real” friend comes a long. If you have never had a best friend, practice with an imagery friend. Best friends talk back!

Finding the Right Person

It is not easy to find someone you enjoy being around, enjoy talking to and don’t mind telling stories to. Some of these experiences, that you cherish are not meant for “just” anyone. You want to share them with people you care about (just a little bit more than everyone else). Finding the right person is often the part most people don’t understand. 1. You can’t make someone into your best friend & 2. Don’t pressure them into doing so.

I have 4 really good friends. These are people I’ve shared experiences, stories and secrets with. They understand me because we’ve gone through most of these experiences together. We’ve bonded and created a trust that is unspoken. Years of ups and downs, and experiences that relied on trust and commitment have passed, and the outcome is people who I consider “best friends”.

I didn’t go looking for these people. And they didn’t go looking for me either. I strongly believe “best friends” just happen. It isn’t something you can’t sign up for, unless you’ve seen bestfriendmatch.com, a place supposedly that allows you to find your best friend. Pretty dumb if you ask me. Either way, it is going to take a lot of work to find this individual(s).

Where do I look?

Before you go out on a wild goose chase, look right in front of you. Give someone a chance to be a part of your life. And if they aren’t exactly what you are looking for, kindly show them by giving them less information and spending less time with them. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person, it simply means you have other things to do, and that person “should” understand that. You have every right to pick and choose who you want to share information with, or allow to enter your life (on a personal level). Never allow anyone to pressure you into doing so.

 Often people who are best friends have a variety of things in common. And sometimes they are total opposite. You can’t go walking in the park thinking you are going to find the perfect friend because you love parks. Does that make sense? No. You have to simply enjoy every encounter, and if you feel there is potential, open up a little and slowly build the trust and commitment you are looking for. WARNING: Blowing the doors off a conversation is a big no, no.  What is blowing the doors off? Giving too much personal information when not needed or asked.

What Happens When I Think They Are the One

Umm. How about ask them? May sound a little silly, but why not? At least you’ll know for sure. If they haven’t popped the question, why can’t you. The worst thing they can say is no right? Some people are too perfect to ask, will you be my friend? Better yet, will you be my best friend? When you are older it is a lot more difficult. When you are younger, you have no idea what you are doing anyways, and you could care less about the results because eventually someone will (hopefully) say yes.

Slowly give information to this individual and (IF) they share back, you have potential right away. If they do not, back off a little and see what they say next. If you still see potential, ask them a question and see if they tell you a sincere answer. If they do not, maybe they need a little more time with you to open up. Or maybe they are not the right person. Note: You can’t share information and expect information to be shared back. Most people don’t operate that way. And remember,  YOU are volunteering to share information, they never asked you to do so.

Take it slow, and ride it out. Be careful with your questions and see how they respond:

Sample questions you could use:

1. Do you have brothers or sisters?/Follow up question: What do they do for a living?

2. What do you like to do for fun? /Follow up question: Do you prefer to do this with friends or alone and why?

3. Who is the most important person in your life? Follow up question: Why?

Use this to get a feel for who the person is, and what they value in a person.

How do I ask a FRIEND out?

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You’ve finally built a relationship with your new friend and you are bored. You want to ask them to do something and you have no idea what you want to do. Before anything, friendship stuff is never usually planned. The first 2 or 3 outings are usually organized really well between the two of you. Everything else after turns into a “your going with me right?” or “I need you to come with me”. And that is what you want it to be like. Unfortunately, you end up doing things you additionally do not want to do, but more often than not you have a good time, and your friend appreciates you a little more for coming with them.

If you are looking for ideas with your new best friend here are some options:

1. Simply hang out and watch re-runs of old television shows

2. Eat ice cream/Order food and gossip (Gossip is bad, but builds relationships)

3. Make pretend you have to go on an errand to the mall or to the grocery store

4. Help babysit a little sister/brother/or animal (dogs are cute)

5. Make pretend you need help fixing something, but have it fixed before they come, offer to stay for a cup of tea or hot chocolate

Conclusion

Best friends can’t be packed and delivered to your front doorstep. If you think you can turn someone into that person you are creating a fire that is going to be very difficult to put out. Give others the time to breathe and make a decision on their own. The best friends are found through experience or surprise. Some people find friends instantly and some people need time. If you honour every conversation and interaction you have with new people, you will slowly see who you want to become closer with. With that, you have to understand that everyone you feel connected with, may not necessarily feel the same way about you. Either way, that doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.

Do you have another way of making friends? How do you know someone is going to be a BFF? Contact use through Twitter: @BeAwesomenow_ca or Facebook: BeAwesomenow . We’d love to hear your response!

Until next time!

#BeAwesome

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How to Survive the First Month of School

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Is your first day of school coming up? Are you wondering what your new teacher is going to be like? What pair of nikes you are going to use to sway new friends? What parties and exams are you going to skip or make a priority? What sport teams are you going to watch or try out for? How close is the nearest grocery store, and can I make it in my slippers?

It is about that time of the year again, back to school! For me, that means new kids, new parents, and new desire to inspire young minds to believe in themselves and be nice to one another. The summer is gone, and it is back to the grind in the classroom for many of us around the world.

 

Let’s talk about September

What are the main concerns of an elementary student? 1. Is my teacher going to be nice 2. What do I have for recess? When I was little, every year I would wonder if my teacher was going to be nice, or if I had to watch out for the Big Bad Wolf, or did mom pack my Dunkaroos, or will I have to trade my sandwich with another classmate. As we get older, these thoughts continue to run through our heads, only in slightly different context. 1. Will I meet new friends or like my boss/or professor 2. I should have ate breakfast today/I need to pack a lunch.

September is crucial to your survival in your new setting. The first month will separate the men from the boys. The women from the girls. Your idea and perception of your new setting and experience will be fresh. Your ears will be alert and your mind and body will be focused on the task at hand. But for how long? Some of us will be entering a new school. Some of us will be going back to a similar setting after the summer holidays. Either way, September is the start of the “new” year. How do you have a great start?

 

The First Impression is Key

Don’t show up to school in hammy down’s aka hand me down’s. I am not saying go out and buy the most expensive pair of shoes or t-shirt, I am saying take care of your self and look presentable. Carol Goman writes, “that moment that stranger sees you, his or her brain makes thousands of computations: Are you someone to approach or to avoid? Are you friend or foe? Do you have status and authority? Are your trustworthy, competent, likeable, confident?

 The decision of others and whether or not they will like or even deal with you are made quickly (7 seconds). Leave a great impression and you are well  on your way to an excellent week during the first month of school. Say hello to your collages. Shake the hand of your professor or teacher. Really mean what you say when talking to new people. Do the little things that count. Put in the work early and everything else is smooth sailing!

 Keep smiling

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Being a teacher, I understand what it feels like to be exhausted from smiling and shaking hands with people you typically have nothing in common with or have know desire to be long-time friends with (sounds cruel but it is true). You can’t be best friends with everyone BUT you can be a great acquaintance. People can love to be around you even though they never see you.  Just keep smiling, just keep smiling, just keep smiling, smiling, smiling. Know one said you had to be everyone’s bestie on the first day. Smile, be polite and shake hands with everyone (use sanitizer often). This again, goes with your first impression. People will always remember your first encounter. This will set you up for easier interactions down the road.

Stay ahead of the Game

In my first year of university (for lack of better word) I sucked! I flat-out didn’t know what was doing, decided to watch sports instead of study, went for walks instead of reading and ate cereal to distract me from assignments. To often we allow ourselves to fall behind. We overlook what is ahead of us, and hope that it will magically complete itself the night before

Surviving September is about Staying a head of the Game. Sure, your friends will want to party. Your boyfriend will want to cuddle. Your friends will want to hangout and chat it up, talk about stuff you necessarily do not want to talk about anyway. Than don’t do it! When you are given an assignment, start it. You don’t have to finish it, but at least look and see what you have to do to complete it. A lesson plan, prepare for the week. Heck, prepare for the month if you have the time. A project to fulfill, do the research. Get the resources and be ready to produce some quality work.

Make a list of priorities and “at least”get started before the week that they are due. We all know what it feels like when Wednesday comes along, and you have a 4000 word essay due on Auscultation and Bromhidrosis by Thursday. Yeah, I don’t know what they mean either.

Don’t allow yourself to get in this position. Force yourself to make a list of up and coming due dates, and get started right away. The best feeling in the world is knowing that you are done something, when everyone else is scratching to make a deadline.

For me, I make a monthly schedule, of what I want to accomplish, by priority. I take 15-20 index cards, put a hole in each  one of them, and tie a string to hold them tight. I often check my dates and make sure I am on schedule. I see priority and needs and attack those ideas first. Life is a party, you will always have time for that. Friends will understand if they are true friends. Everyone else doesn’t matter.

Conclusion

September is the start of a new year. It is not quite, champagne and balloons yet, but it represents a new beginning. Every September students and professionals go back to the grind. Don’t be that person who, talks about doing things and never get’s it done. We all talk about this person and often fall in the same category at times. Put your words into action and do what it takes to be a head. What are you going to do to make this “new”year better than any other year?

As years go by, you will slowly understand the preparation, both mentally and physically to start fresh, and get off to a good start. The only people I know that can start poorly and still win are Usain Bolt, Michael Phelps, Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzky and Muhammad Ali. I guess and a few others. Once you get on their laugh, you’ll have nothing to worry about 😉

Start the grind early!

In the mean time, continue to #BeAwesome

Be AWESOME Updates: New Line, Awesome Project, YouTube Collaboration and MORE!

Before anything, I would like to apologize for haven’t posting anything in a while. Things have been really busy here in Kuwait over the past number of weeks. In and between teaching and report cards, and finalizing some big ideas for the worlds fastest growing motivational brand, its been a ride I am sure I will never forget.

So what’s new:

My Life: Besides the 25 report cards I had to finish this week. The grades being entered into the computer. The NBA playoffs (My poor Clippers). Being sick (cold or some sort of flu). The past few weeks have been very challenging for me. I must say, I’ve had times were I looked myself in the computer screen (because that is where I usually am) and asked myself, is it worth it. And directly after these thoughts, I asked myself, why would I even think that. I believe that if you are trying to help others in ANY kind of what it is worth it. It is worth the heart ache. The pain and the suffering. So if you are out there like me, trying to make a difference in anyones life, through friendship, parenting, mentoring, anything! Don’t feel down or upset about it. Don’t let your ego, or hard work get in the way of making someone else’s life more fulfilling. Believe in good faith, and all that good faith will come back to you. Keep grinding everyone!

SignUp!

SignUp!

The NewsLetter: If you haven’t already you please check out our splash page. www.beawesomenow.ca Notice the .CA (yes I am Canadian) if you did not know.ahah Oh. Canada! We are going to release a news letter a week, that will let everyone know what we are doing as an organization, and what they can look forward to as we prep for a crazy and fulfilled summer.

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GiveMore

Charities/Organizations: We’ve locked down a number of cool charities and NGO’s that we are really excited about. We are unable to confirm their involvement just yet because of paper work that has to be filed and returned. We currently have 6 that are really interested, and 3 that have confirmed they want to get involved! For a start, that is AWESOME. The tough part about this is, I am still me. My friends know me, my followers (kinda know me), and these individuals, do not know me at all. I understand that it is hard to trust people now a days, and that is what I am trying to build this company with “TRUST”. To those of you who’ve given me the go, and have shown the smallest amount of interest, I am honoured and I thank you for that! Stay in the loop for more on these organizations and what they have to offer. We will be working with some awesome people!

Website: For me this has been the most challenging part of my early stages of building this brand. In the past it was easy (well not easy, but sort of in a way that I needed to get things and the word out there as fast as possible) things were kind of rushed, and not done professionally (in my opinion). This time everything is being done in progress. We are taking the steps to make this company “real”. Not just an online store. Not just a fancy website with cool pictures. We are going to re-vamp the way you look at websites and the value of information you receive.

Our new look is clean, photo heavy, and dependent on motivation and inspiration by you. You will find daily motivation to keep you going. Clean images for reminders of what life really means. People and stories to think about. We are giving you a place to come, relax, take some time out of your day and really find the meaning of life. What we have so far is #AWESOME. I cannot say more, about the guys at www.qnacreatives.com and what they’ve done for me as a new company. All I can say is stay tuned! You are sure to be impressed by our decisions on this website.

awesome10New Line: Lots of exciting news in regards to our new line and what we’ve decided to do with what the world provides to us. We are changing the look and feel of the shirts “entirely”. New logo’s (as you can see), new designs but the same motivation and purpose. We’ve taken a sweat-shop free approach to our-line that includes a number of incentives that we will release through our newsletter. We are excited about this change and we hope you are to. Our fitted tees and sweaters will be more dry, comfy and motivational. We plan to release a number of limited edition products as well.

The Awesome Project: If you haven’t read the news letter, I will give you a little run down, as to what this is all about. This project is about spreading Awesome around the world. We’ve decided that how else can we do this, other than taking a boat load of tees around the world each year and spreading them to everyone we possibly see and contact ourselves with. People on the airplane, restaurants, playgrounds, villages, families, schools, teams, you name it. Our goal is to visit 5 continents in 5 years and give out 200+ tees to a given country, state or province in each continent. Again, stay in the loop for more information on this project and how you can get involved!

Topic - Youtube-676854Youtube collaboration: I can’t give you too much on this until I sign the papers and send the information BUT let’s just say Be Awesome will (inshallah) be working with and up and coming YouTube start on a new Be Awesome Commercial!

 

 

-BeAwesome

How to be a #SuperHuman

How to be a #SuperHuman

#IMASUPERHUMAN

#IMASUPERHUMAN

Will Smith. Oprah Winfrey. Warren Buffet. Michael Jordan. Donald Trump. Usain Bolt. Muhammad Ali. Jane Addams. Albert Einstein. Elvis Presley. Anne Frank. Henry Ford. Mohandas Ghandi. Hellen Keller. Ellen DeGeneres. William Shakespeare. Leonardo Da Vinci. Neil Armstrong. Christopher Columbus. Abraham Lincoln. George Washington. Mozart. Bill Gats. Martin Luther King. Napoleon. John F. Kennedy. Benjamin Franklin. Bill Clinton. Pablo Piccaso. Michael Jackson. Thomas Jefferson. Mother Teresa. Aristotle. Princess Diana. Walt Disney. Beethoven. Mark Twain. Tom Cruise. Charles Dickens. Harrison Ford. Clint Eastwood.  Bob Dylan. Ray Charles. Jim Carry. Jack Nicholson. Dr. Seuss. Bill Cosby. Justin Timberlake. Denzel Washington. Eddie Murphy. Charlie Brown. Spider Man. Hillary Clinton. Michael J. Fox. Robin Williams. Andy Griffin. Miles Davis. Ken Griffey Jr. Kobe Bryant. Beyonce. Kanye West. Steve Martin. Tom Brady. Keith Richards. Tyra Banks. Hank Aaron. Yogi Berra. Neil Diamod. Jesse Jackson. Terry Fox. Chuck Yeager. Dan Rather. Mae West. Terry Bradshaw. Gloria Gingrich. Jennifer Lopez. Justin Bieber. Lady Gaga. Tom Cruise. Steven Spielberg. Tyler Perry. Simon Cowell. Elton John. Lebron James. Angelina Jolie. Tiger Woods. Wayne Gretzky. Taylor Swift. Brad Pitt . Dr. Dre. Bon Jovi. Adele. Glenn Beck. Jennifer Aniston. Paul Mac Cartney. Peyton Manning. Sean Carter. Michael Bay. Many Pacquiao. Roger Federer. David Beckham. Eva Longoria. Adriana Lima. David Letterman. Kate Moss. Lionel Messi. Floyd Mayweather. J.K Rowling. Serena Williams. Sofia Vergara. Barack Obama. Warren Buffett. Mark Zuckerberg. Jack Dorsey. Satoshi Tajiri. Trip Hawkins. William Wrigley Jr.

When I think about the list above (2 name a few), I think about 4 things: Heart, Motive, Fire, Choice. What is it that separates the regular human being from these super humans? I’ve read a number of blogs, books and articles about why people do what they do. What motivates successful people? What allows others to rise above the norm and overcome obstacles many give up on? Where do they find a second gear?  How are these people so successful?

When people see the success of others, they often forget about the hardships they’ve faced before their fortune and fame. Before the makeovers and money. Being poor on the streets of New York, living in abandon buildings, living pay-check to pay-check, teen pregnancy, gang violence, peer pressure, bullying, rape, child abuse, obesity, name calling, disease, put-downs, head-aches, cancer, lost loved ones, a broken heart. Someone in the above list has overcome one, two or possibly three of these obstacles. What they do for a living now is what we see in the paper. What we see on the movie screen, on packages and clothing. The way these individuals reached their full potential is lost. The steps they went through is an after thought.

People forget that these super humans started from the ground up. They took a long look at obstacles and mountains and found ways to overcome and climb over them. They were not given empires of riches or a big house and a picket fence. Society was never threatened to like these individuals. They did something that the world has never seen before. They had motive to drive their determination. They used hardship and struggle to light their fire. They created a heart of hope and destiny. They left the world with no choice.

What you need to be a SUPERHUMAN:

MOTIVE:

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One thing almost all successful people have is motive. Motive is the striving force behind your inspiration to be successful. This is the key that starts the engine. When you have motive (meaning) behind what you do, your job turns into passion. When you are living a passion, you do not work a day in your life. Motive is finding an experience that is negative or positive, and using it to benefit you in the future.

You can’t just wake up and decide that something is going to be my motive today. You can’t just steal a motive from a friend or pick up a motive from the super market. A motive is something that has been created through some type of experience (positive or negative) Maybe you want to prove a teacher or friend wrong about their idea of you being a doctor or a lawyer. Maybe you want to challenge a coach’s perspective on your chances of making it to the pros and being a superstar. What ever it is, you have to find it and grab a hold of it. Think deeply about what was said (not who said it) and use it to motivate you to be successful.

FIRE:

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A lot of people have motives and reasons to do things. They make resolutions and promises to get things going (Get started). The beginning is always the easy part. You have a clear picture of what you want and how you are going to get there. Your confidence is at an all-time high and you feel good. The first few days are usually okay. The fire is fully lit. The next week. Sometimes the next month. The same thing. But after a while that fire is tampered with. Outside influences are trying to put your fire out. What do you do? What would a super-human do?

Outside influences and obstacles that tamper with your success only fuel the fire. You need to take that energy and that struggle and use it to continue to push towards what your ultimate goal is. Super-humans never allow outside influences to affect what they see as the big picture or final project. They continue to use everything in life to motivate (motive) them to keep going. That fire they have, sure it gets tampered with, but it continues to burn. And it burns until a task or goal is complete.

CHOICE:

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When you do something and you leave society with no choice but to pay attention to what you are doing, you are testing your will and power of achievement to be successful. Life is about choices. You can decide to quit. Give up. Or change your mind at anytime, but when you make up your mind to stick with a cause or a goal, that is when you will be successful. You will never get anything done, or finish it to the best of your ability if you allow others to influence it. When you decide to give society zero choice that is when people start to no you are serious. It takes time to figure out what you are good at. Maybe it is more than one or two things. But consistency and commitment to a choice is what people notice the most. Super-humans leave societies with no choice but to pay attention.

HEART: You have to have it inside you to make it happen (Plain and simple) Sure you must leave society with no choice, keep the fire burning, and find something that keeps you motivated (motive), but it all really comes down to one thing. That one thing is heart. If you can’t find it inside you to do what you love, or try to make a better living for yourself, you are not going to be able to follow through on plans you have for your future. You have to look inside yourself (internally) and believe what you see or write down can come true. You need to tell your self you can do it. Superhumans have it inside them. They breathe and sleep success. Why can’t you?

-BeAwesome

ImInKuwait: Week 26 (Life and Lebanon)

ImInKuwait: Week26

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I can’t believe it’s been 182 days (roughly) since I left the little province of Nova Scotia, Canada to experience a journey of a lifetime. For starters, I want to apologize for not updating you like I promised about this experience. Since August 2012, I’ve visited Dubai, Berlin, Barcelona and Lebanon. I’ve taught 25 kids in a classroom in Kuwait. Learned a little bit of Arabic. Made some great friends. Dreamt about hummus, tabbouleh, kebbeh and shawarma. Drove in a taxi over 50 times. Smelled 200 different kinds of perfume (anyone in Kuwait would understand). Took over 4000 pictures. Went through over 10 cases of 12 x1.5 litre bottles of water. Skyped numerous friends. Watched over 6 AUS basketball games online. Fell in love with Zara. And the list goes on and on.

So what’s been up?

Everything has been going great here in Kuwait! Enjoying my new friends a lot. Spending lots of time with the Girls JV/Varsity basketball team at ASK (Coach JV/Assist Varsity). The girls are great and I am really happy to be apart of Falcon Athletics. School of course has been very busy. Report cards went out to the students and parents about a week ago. Student led conferences are coming up and we have to prepare for that as well (should be fun). I am really interested in seeing how this type of conferencing works. I am excited to see how the kids do. I think it will be great for the students and parents to reflect on their work together. I’ve been learning lots. Taking in as much as I can, and adjusting to the environment everyday.

I recently arrived back from Lebanon. We had a break in February, and I decided to visit a friend. Before anything, I would like to express how grateful I am to have such awesome friend in Mr. Toulany. He went way beyond expectations of a host. I was able to visit a variety of places with amazing scenery. Attend a professional basketball and volleyball game. Ate in multiple restaurants. Walked and explore a village. Investigated an amazing underground cave. Got to ride in a cable car. Was able to meet various family members and friends. And so much more. #Thankyou so much!

Lebanon is a beautiful place. It is definitely a placed I would like to visit again. I totally understand why they call it the “Paris of the Middle East”. The buildings. The cars. The people. The landscape is amazing. I personally cannot describe how much I love this place. I highly recommend a visit. The images below are a summary of my trip. Enjoy:

Driving

Driving

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ChickenPasta

BestSalad(Crab)

BestSalad(Crab)

#VillageLook

#VillageLook

LookFar

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EverythingIsAGreatPicture

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ILoveThisPlace!

ILoveThisPlace! (village)

Rosey

Rosey

VillageView

VillageView

SnowMountains

SnowMountains

#HappyBdayToMe

#HappyBdayToMe

TraditionalLebFood:-)

TraditionalLebFood:-)

Yumm!

Yumm!

MountainTop

MountainTop

#AWESOME

#AWESOME

:-)

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LandscapeView

LandscapeView

Harissa

Harissa

TheSunset

TheSunset

SushiAnyone?

SushiAnyone?

OnTheHouse!

OnTheHouse!

JeittaGrotto

JeittaGrotto

ThisMakesMeSmile

ThisMakesMeSmile

TeamBejjeh #23!

TeamBejjeh #23!

VBall!

VBall!

Greatest Shawarma EVER!

Greatest Shawarma EVER!

What’s next?

I have another break at the end of March. I am still debating on what I want to do during that time. The options right now are back to Lebanon or Istanbul, Turkey. That decision will be made very shortly. But until next time. Stay safe. And stay Awesome. See pictures below of the trip!

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #312 Fearless: Stages of Fear

BeAwesome: #312 Fearless

To me, Fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death- Taylor Swift 

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One thing I enjoy about life is fear. The anticipation of not knowing what may or may not happen is something I like. I find it intriguing. It is something I learn from everyday. Through conversation with family and friends. And growing up. I believe that fear has shaped a lot of my life choices. It started at a young age. Interested in playing the piano. Trying out for baseball and basketball teams. Taking part in contest. And really putting myself out their as a person.

Stages of Fear

Kids are usually not afraid of anything (Ages 3-12)

When you are a kid it is often easy (not all of the time) to find friends or try something new. Or do something you are unsure about. You don’t really care about what others think. Quite frankly you don’t really care what your parents think either. You’d go to school dressed up as spider man or SpongBob. You’d bring a cheese and peanut butter sandwich for lunch. You’d dye your hair bright yellow if you were allowed. At this point in your life, you are unaware (most kids) of what people think of you (technically you don’t care). You just want to have fun. And try new things.

Teenagers are afraid of some things (Ages 12-19)

Being a teenager is difficult. Especially in today’s society (2013), teenagers are becoming more and more afraid to try new things. Bullying is a usual cause. Personal image. And Acceptance. Teenagers today would rather be accepted then to try something with risk involved. This is not all teenagers. But many would rather sit back and follow the crowd then take the lead themselves. Some would rather hang out with the popular group and allow someone else to take the lead. Some don’t have a group. Some just do what ever their parents say (Which is fine of course, but remember you have an opinion, and if you do not ask you will never know).

Adults are often afraid of everything (Ages 19-99)

Adult’s are afraid of fear. Why are adults so afraid to do something that involves risk. Well I think it often relates to->job, security, money and again social acceptance. Adults can easily get wrapped up into life and forget about making themselves happy. Unlike kids and teenagers adults (majority of them) have a secured profession and a variety of commitments. This means you know longer have time for fun. Or do anything you really want to do. Right? Not really. That is what we think. And we decide to let happen. Adults enjoy fear at the bare minimum. Adults allow being comfortable to affect the importance of trying something new and becoming uncomfortable.

Marianne Williamson 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

In conclusion we need to be more like kids. Take a risk. Or run into fear once in a while and see what happens. Learn from these experiences and enjoy them. We do not have to stop trying new things. We need to continue exploring and pushing our own buttons. You never know what you will find until we start to search. You will never learn about yourself unless you challenge the normality of you. Be more like a kid. Be Awesome.

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #311 Mature: 4 Things You Should Spend Less Time With

BeAwesome: #311 Mature (4 Things You Should Spend Less Time With)

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Everyone has a kid in them. Something will always excite you. If you do not. Or nothing can excite you. You are missing out. We catch ourselves acting like a kid in different situations all the time. It is normal of course. It is something great about the person.The individual. And different experiences that cause different reactions to things in life we enjoy. You do not have to be an adult to be mature. You do not have to act like an old man or woman either (Even though everyone calls me old man :-)Growing up. I was always considered and “old man”. Or a oldsoul. Mainly because of the decisions I made in the moment or before and up and coming event. Deep thinking. Sometimes when you are growing up, you do not think about occasions or events. You do things because you are asked. You get involved because it looks cool. Or feel pressured. Me. I would really think about the beginning, middle and end of everything. I would think about the benefits of each occasion.I would think about the outcome before it happened. I would often look deep into things. I would often say things beyond my years. Being mature to me was about making the right decisions. And being able to say no, when you were pressured to say yes or do things you had no interest in.

MATURE

Fully developed physically; full-grown. Being mature is about experiencing more and taking everything out of that experience and using it to better yourself as you grow. It is not about drinking coffee and wearing suspenders. (Nothing against suspenders or coffee @TheCoolestCool;-) Or. Wearing a skirt. And high heels. That is not the meaning up growing up. Being mature is recognizing the bigger picture and preparing yourself for what is next in life. Understanding social rules. Understanding what it is you want in life. Again. Seeing the big picture. And having an idea of how to get there. Being mature is about letting go of things that have zero value towards your success. Or better yet. Spending less time with them. Here is a list of things you need to spend less time with:

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Spend less time with:

1. Gossip (No time for it. Leave it for those who are bored)

Not a big fan of gossip. Everyone likes news, but gossips is a poor conversation starter. So and so is dating so and so. Did you hear about this. What do you think they should do. When ever I hear about gossip I laugh. It never bothers me inside that it interest people, but it never interest to the point were I want to participate either. Gossip is a rumour that may or may not be true. Having true facts is another story. Understanding the different between the two is important. Leave gossip for junior high and high school kids. There are so many other things in the world you could talk about. Talk facts. Don’t gossip.

2. Video Games (Not literally, but don’t over do it)

Not a huge fan of video games. I have friends that love to play them. And I do once in a while. Often in the summer. Or on rare occasion at a friend’s place. They are modern technology. The individuals that create video games are extremely talented. And should be recognized for their accomplishments in this trade. But for those who are mature. Don’t over do it. A new game comes out. Sure go and get it. Play it. Enjoy it. Embrace its digital loveliness. But when you start to allow it to interfere with your life. Wife. Kids. School. Job. Significant other. Then we have a problem. Today. Parents. Adults. Everyone is guilty. For spending hours in front of the t.v screen shooting monsters. Or playing sports. And. Hey it is okay to have fun. I am just saying that those who are mature. Understand their limits. And when enough is enough. Enjoy it. Put it away. Repeat.

3. Bad eating habits (Eat what you like, but be responsible)

As we grow older. We need to take responsibility of what we eat. I did not graduate with a health degree. Better yet, I know very little about nutrition. But we all have a sense of what is healthy and what is not. As we grow. We need to start taking care of our bodies a little different. Instead of grabbing the fruit roll ups. Grab the apples or oranges. Instead of taking the fruit loops. Take the Cheerios (I know this is hard). But you need to find a balance in what you eat. And find the things you like. So you do not have to go wandering around the store looking for healthy food you like. Of course. Treat your self once in a while. Grab those fruit loops or lucky charms and go for it. But you have to find a balance between the two. An important yet forgotten part about life is that we are what we eat. We need to take care of our bodies. So our bodies can take care of us.

4. Procrastination (Don’t lie to yourself)

I always tell myself that, “Procrastination is the road to failure”. This is one of the biggest challenges amongst young adults growing up. When you are unsure about life and what you want to do. When you have friends pulling you from different angles. When you are trying to experience new things. And trying to please everyone. We forget about our purpose. Why we are doing what we are doing. We take a 2 hour break instead of a 1 hour break. We talk to a friend about a question. And forget about our homework. Instead of watching one movie we watch 2. Instead of watching what hockey game we watch 3. Understanding how procrastination can hurt our future is important. It is something we should all look up. And try to balance in our work schedules. It is great to take breaks. But when you find that instant thought about something you need to do. Simple do it. Sit down and get it done. There is not better feeling then completing something, you thought would be overly difficult. The benefits are that it is over. You’ve sat down and completed the work. Now you can move on. Don’t lie to yourself. And put things off until tomorrow. Do it now. And get it over with.

BEAWESOME

Those who are AWESOME are mature. We have fun but we understand our boundaries. We do things because we want to. Not because of the outside influence. We love being ourselves. And searching for things we love to do and enjoy. We stay busy. And have a purpose for what we are doing. We try our best to please ourselves and the people around us.

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