If I was your Bestfriend, I’d want you Round All the Time

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Do you currently have a best friend? Or someone you know you can depend on when times get tough, need a laugh or share a secret? If you want to find someone, most people have to wait or build  years of trust, commitment and understanding before this title is given. Best friends don’t magically appear in thin air (do they?). They usually come unexpected and are built on experiences you go through together.

How do you find a best friend?

What qualities do you look for?

Most children by the age of 3-5, according to AboutOurKids.com have developed an imaginary friend. Why are imaginary friends good? Well they usually do what ever you want, never talk back and disappear upon request. They also prepare you for when a “real” friend comes a long. If you have never had a best friend, practice with an imagery friend. Best friends talk back!

Finding the Right Person

It is not easy to find someone you enjoy being around, enjoy talking to and don’t mind telling stories to. Some of these experiences, that you cherish are not meant for “just” anyone. You want to share them with people you care about (just a little bit more than everyone else). Finding the right person is often the part most people don’t understand. 1. You can’t make someone into your best friend & 2. Don’t pressure them into doing so.

I have 4 really good friends. These are people I’ve shared experiences, stories and secrets with. They understand me because we’ve gone through most of these experiences together. We’ve bonded and created a trust that is unspoken. Years of ups and downs, and experiences that relied on trust and commitment have passed, and the outcome is people who I consider “best friends”.

I didn’t go looking for these people. And they didn’t go looking for me either. I strongly believe “best friends” just happen. It isn’t something you can’t sign up for, unless you’ve seen bestfriendmatch.com, a place supposedly that allows you to find your best friend. Pretty dumb if you ask me. Either way, it is going to take a lot of work to find this individual(s).

Where do I look?

Before you go out on a wild goose chase, look right in front of you. Give someone a chance to be a part of your life. And if they aren’t exactly what you are looking for, kindly show them by giving them less information and spending less time with them. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person, it simply means you have other things to do, and that person “should” understand that. You have every right to pick and choose who you want to share information with, or allow to enter your life (on a personal level). Never allow anyone to pressure you into doing so.

 Often people who are best friends have a variety of things in common. And sometimes they are total opposite. You can’t go walking in the park thinking you are going to find the perfect friend because you love parks. Does that make sense? No. You have to simply enjoy every encounter, and if you feel there is potential, open up a little and slowly build the trust and commitment you are looking for. WARNING: Blowing the doors off a conversation is a big no, no.  What is blowing the doors off? Giving too much personal information when not needed or asked.

What Happens When I Think They Are the One

Umm. How about ask them? May sound a little silly, but why not? At least you’ll know for sure. If they haven’t popped the question, why can’t you. The worst thing they can say is no right? Some people are too perfect to ask, will you be my friend? Better yet, will you be my best friend? When you are older it is a lot more difficult. When you are younger, you have no idea what you are doing anyways, and you could care less about the results because eventually someone will (hopefully) say yes.

Slowly give information to this individual and (IF) they share back, you have potential right away. If they do not, back off a little and see what they say next. If you still see potential, ask them a question and see if they tell you a sincere answer. If they do not, maybe they need a little more time with you to open up. Or maybe they are not the right person. Note: You can’t share information and expect information to be shared back. Most people don’t operate that way. And remember,  YOU are volunteering to share information, they never asked you to do so.

Take it slow, and ride it out. Be careful with your questions and see how they respond:

Sample questions you could use:

1. Do you have brothers or sisters?/Follow up question: What do they do for a living?

2. What do you like to do for fun? /Follow up question: Do you prefer to do this with friends or alone and why?

3. Who is the most important person in your life? Follow up question: Why?

Use this to get a feel for who the person is, and what they value in a person.

How do I ask a FRIEND out?

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You’ve finally built a relationship with your new friend and you are bored. You want to ask them to do something and you have no idea what you want to do. Before anything, friendship stuff is never usually planned. The first 2 or 3 outings are usually organized really well between the two of you. Everything else after turns into a “your going with me right?” or “I need you to come with me”. And that is what you want it to be like. Unfortunately, you end up doing things you additionally do not want to do, but more often than not you have a good time, and your friend appreciates you a little more for coming with them.

If you are looking for ideas with your new best friend here are some options:

1. Simply hang out and watch re-runs of old television shows

2. Eat ice cream/Order food and gossip (Gossip is bad, but builds relationships)

3. Make pretend you have to go on an errand to the mall or to the grocery store

4. Help babysit a little sister/brother/or animal (dogs are cute)

5. Make pretend you need help fixing something, but have it fixed before they come, offer to stay for a cup of tea or hot chocolate

Conclusion

Best friends can’t be packed and delivered to your front doorstep. If you think you can turn someone into that person you are creating a fire that is going to be very difficult to put out. Give others the time to breathe and make a decision on their own. The best friends are found through experience or surprise. Some people find friends instantly and some people need time. If you honour every conversation and interaction you have with new people, you will slowly see who you want to become closer with. With that, you have to understand that everyone you feel connected with, may not necessarily feel the same way about you. Either way, that doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.

Do you have another way of making friends? How do you know someone is going to be a BFF? Contact use through Twitter: @BeAwesomenow_ca or Facebook: BeAwesomenow . We’d love to hear your response!

Until next time!

#BeAwesome

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20 Facts About A Good Person

BeAwesome: #326 20 Facts About A Good Person

#BeGood

#BeGood

A good person is someone who cares. They care about themselves and the people around them. It does not matter if it is their best friend, family or even a stranger. Good people have a heart for everyone.

Good people do the little things that average people do not like to do: Opening the door for the elderly. Not judging. Being nice and compassionate. Telling the truth. Expressing how one feels. Charitable. Good manners.Being Positive. Being respectful and a good listener. Treat people the way you want to be treated.

Being a good person ask you to be and do a lot of different things. Is it a lot?  Heck yes it is! And that is why only some people can do it. Am I happy with whom I am as a person? Do I love my self? These are general questions that are made up to see the bigger picture.

20 Facts About A Good Person

Fact: A Good Person accepts everyone for who they are

Fact: A Good Person never compares themselves to others

Fact: A Good Person is respectful to their elders

Fact: A Good Person is compassionate

Fact: A Good Person helps others

Fact: A Good Person tells the truth

Fact: A Good Person gives 110%

Fact: A Good Person loves to listen

Fact: A Good Person gives

Fact: A Good Person loves one self

Fact: A Good Person is trust worthy

Fact: A Good Person forgives (Never forgets)

Fact: A Good Person is tolerant

Fact: A Good Person is responsible

Fact: A Good Person humble

Fact: A Good Person is educated

Fact: A Good Person faithful

Fact: A Good Person is patience

Fact: A Good Person is friendly

Fact: A Good Person loves

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Being a good person is about trying to do the right thing

(Can we do the right thing all the time? Probably not. But we can definitely try)

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YouDecide

3 Myths about a Good Person:

Own Things

Sometimes we get confused about how to be a good person. We do things “just because” instead of “from the heart”. You do not have to be rich or live in a fancy house to be a good person. You do not have to be wealthy and own fancy cars, and eat fancy food either. The truth is, some good people have all of this while some good people have none of this at all. Objects and things do not make good people.

Religion

You do not have to be religious to be a good person. You do not have to go to church either. You do not have to read the bible. You do not have to do anything when it comes to  Religion, to be considered a good person. You can still be a good person without this. This is a personal choice. It does not mean you are a more or less of a good person if you decide to follow religion or not.

Conceited

Being conceited means: Excessively proud of oneself. Arrogant and vain. This means you believe you are above all. Good people are not conceited. Do not get this definition mixed with good-hearted people. Good people do not need the spot light. Good people do not care who gets the credit as long as someone is happy

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You be the judge.. Are you a good person? What are you doing to make others around you happy? Are you happy?

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #314 Excited (10 Feel Good Videos)

BeAwesome: #314 Excited (10 Feel Good Videos)

When I’m inspired, I get excited because I can’t wait to see what I’ll come up with next- Dolly Parton

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I can’t say I get excited much. Not sure what it is, but I really never get excited about anything. Do things spark my interest? Of course! But excitement, that is something I am unable to explain. I’ve had the opportunity now to travel and visit a variety of places. And by all means, these places have been beautiful. And I am blessed to have had the opportunity to see them. But was I excited? Again, I am not too sure about it.

Recently, I’ve found a few different things that excited. One thing I kind of already knew about, and the other was a light bulb moment. The first thing is candy. Hey, I have a sweet tooth for sour and chewy things. Can’t help it. The second thing is seeing others overcome obstacles or be nice to people. Is that strange? Personally, I don’t think so. I’d like to think that the enjoyment I have in seeing this process or people succeed is a good thing. How can you not like a feel good story? (See below)

Take a look at what I am talking about below:

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Sometimes, a hug is all that we need. Free Hugs is the real life controversial story of Juan Mann, a man whose sole mission was to reach out and hug a stranger put a smile on their face.

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Shane Koyczan was bullied a lot when he was a kid. So he took that pain and made this stunning video with the help of some amazingly talented people. It’s kind of breathtaking and powerful, just a warning. Also, it has a happy ending.

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Young man overcomes disability through sports

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Young man, Sung-bong Choi steals the show at Korea’s Got Talent. He had no idea that he would win the hearts of millions all over the world!

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SoulPancake hits the streets to see what happens when two strangers sit in a ball pit… and talk about life’s big questions.

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We often head from place to place so quickly that we forget to take a break and just enjoy the moment.

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The amazing Zach Hodskins. Just watch and be amazed at the level of talent from this gentlemen.

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Watch arriving passengers be given a welcome home to remember at Heathrow Terminal 5.

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Guaranteed to change your life..

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Coke Happiness Machine In London.

When ever you are having a bad day. Watch one of these videos and feel good:-)

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #290 Purpose

BeAwesome: #290 Purpose

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them- Dalai Lama

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COUSINS AKA BADBOYS

Why do people do things. Why do we concentrate on goals or things that intrigue us. Why do we want to win so badly. Why do we want to be successful. Some reasons are obvious. Fame. Glory. Money. People work towards things. It motivates them. But what is their purpose.  Is that just it? (look above) What is the meaning behind their actions. I remember when I was younger my cousins and me would always compete at video games. Sports. Races. And other random games we would get into outside grandmas yard in the summer. I remember one day our older cousins showed up. We had candy at the time. And they began to ask us one by one for each. After each candy given, they would make comments such as “ oh, he is my favorite little cousin”, or “ wow, he gave me two, he is my favorite now”. I remember this, like it was yesterday. Without thinking, our candy was gone. And our older cousins had a stomach full of gummy warms and fuzzy peaches. When I was younger, I was mad. But my purpose (now that I’m older) was to be the favorite. Be the best. Do what ever it takes to get what I wanted. Were my cousins joking and teasing us (of course) but I’m pretty sure they like us all the same. The moral of the story is…

All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose– Brian Tracy

PURPOSE

The reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. Intention. Object. Goal. End. Mean. And Design.  We all have a purpose in what we do. Some may think you are doing something “just” because. But that is entirely wrong. You never do anything just because. You feel it. Want to do it for some reason. You feel pressured. You think its right. You want to be cool. Etc. Our life is thought out through reasoning and purpose.  Find that meaningful purpose and allow it to determine your future. Allow it change your mind about negative decisions or pressures in life. Once you’ve decided to make this idea, this purpose your center piece to success, know one is able to take that away from you. Find your main purpose.

BEAWESOME:

Those who are AWESOME have purpose. They wake up with a vision. And go to bed with that same image and picture they want to see when success has finally reached its point of enter. Those who are AWESOME use meaning for what they do. Never just because. The purpose is what drives the bus. The steering is what allows you to get there.

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BeAwesome: Being Thankful

BeAwesome: Being Thankful

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE THANKFUL

We often forget to thank those who have helped us throughout this thing called life. We go through so many experiences. The many ups and downs. And often receive help during these occasions, and we forget. Not because we are rude. Or because we are ignorant about those who are willing to give their helping hand. But because of life’s fast pace. Because of the different things that go on. The mood of the month. Or the personality of the day. So many influences that affect what we do and how we do things. We need to try to be more thankful for everything. The little things that we take for granted. The big things that we see but never talk about. Being thankful is being happy with what you have. Appreciating what you are giving and trying to give exactly that right back to someone else. I believe in this world, if you are not giving you are wasting your time. What you give, you will get in return through different acts of life.

HOW DO YOU GIVE BACK

A lot of things in life that you are given. You will never be able to repay back. A Love. A Hug. An experience. A Helpful hand. All of these things have no cost. And you cannot simply repay for these occasions. These actions. How do you show you are thankful. What we as individuals have to do is show genuine heart and thankfulness for what we are given. We must remind ourselves that giving does not consistently mean an object. The best gifts are the things that we cannot purchase at the store. We give thanks by being nice. Being a good friend. Showing a kind eye and an appreciation for what has been done for you. A continuous thankyou. A laugh. A good time. Have a carefulness with your actions. Now that someone has helped you, it is your way to thank, by helping someone else.

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THANKYOU

I want to take this time to say thankyou. I’ve been blessed to have a great family and support group in my life that consistently helps me with decisions and obstacles I face every day. Sometimes we forget. And I am guilty of that. I apologize for not showing thanks. I will try to show more of an appreciation through my actions. I will take the time and think about what you’ve done for me in my life. Family. Friends. Strangers. You have all helped and guided me in the right direction throughout the course of my life. Again. Thank you. And I will try my best to stay thankful by giving more. And appreciating the little things in life.

-BeAwesome