Put your BIG BOY pants on!

If you had the chance to read my last blog you probably know that I’ve been really busy. School is wrapping up, and ever day it feels like I have something else I have to  complete. A bit overwhelmed to say the lease. With that, I found myself thinking to often, and spending too much time on negative thoughts and energy. How can I do this? What if this doesn’t work? I spent a lot of time worrying about the what if? and how comes? These are all questions that make our bodies and minds think negatively or upset about something instantly. We carry these questions with us for days and until we find answers. Some of us carry these questions for months and years.

I started acting different. My response to simple conversation. Daily interactions with others. Emails. Phone calls. Everything. And you know what, it wasn’t me. I spent one day apologizing to everyone I thought I made upset. All because of one or two things I was unsure about. Then I thought, why am I making these individuals suffer because of my problems. Or my issues. What do I need to do to get out of this slump?

To do this, I normally tell myself “Put your Big Boy Pants on” and stop complaining. Take a look at the bigger picture, and realize that things aren’t so bad. For starters I look at my surroundings and block out anything that bothers me. Anything that is negatively affecting my goals or dreams. If you have a goal you need to protect it. Some people do not realize when they are stopping others from doing what they love. You need to harness that mindset and make changes that are going to affect your future in a good way.Block out the frustration by looking forward to the big picture. Life is about taking the necessary steps to reach your ultimate goals. Everything in between is called a “lesson” or “experience”. You should never allow a lesson or experience that is taking place, overcome and shadow your ultimate goals.

Take a look at the BIG PICTURE. Once you have this picture in your mind, you can always find ways to benefit from negative experiences you go through in life. That worry (or thought) that continuously plays in your head. The negative emotions and feelings you have about something or someone. Once, you “flip the script” and make it into a learning experience, your mindset and mood should change. Think about the advantages you have, privileges, opportunities and blessing. Is that moment of frustration worth more than all of that? I highly doubt it. We get lost in conflict, and disappear in what we call “life”. We start to see it and talk about it, but forget to live it.

“Next you need to pull up your big boy pants and tap into a mindset that allows you to block out the frustration”- Kobe



My thoughts came from Kobe Bryant on this years 2012-2013,Los Angeles Lakers, and Pau Gasol. Kobe speaks on Pau, “Put your big-boy pants on,” Kobe said with a trace of disgust in his voice. “C’mon … just adjust. You can’t whine about it or complain about it. Heck, I’m 34 years old, and I’m running screen-and-rolls out there because Steve is out, and my ass is running up and down the court more than I ever have in my entire career. But you have to adjust to it”. One thing I always find about great pro athletes are that they are able to overcome incredible odds and disfavour by simply adjusting the way they think. 

There comes a point and time in life were you simply have to stop all the complaining. Feeling sorry for yourself. Making excuses as to why things are the way they are. Making other individuals lives miserable because you think yours is as well. Take an oath, and start creating and environment that allows you to exceed beyond expectation. Stop thinking negatively about yourself. Stop allowing others to dictate what you do and how you do it. Put your big boy pants on and lead your future. Hey, if this does not interest you, others will gladly do it for you. That is all for now.

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What Women Look Good In

BeAwesome: #324 What Women Look Good In



I am not a fashion expert. I think I dress pretty nice and I try to stay up to date with the latest trends. I usually never follow them but I think I know what is in and what is out. A lot of people call me a hipster (And I am okay with that), for those of you who are unsure of what that is:

Hipsters are a subculture of men and women typically in their 20’s and 30’s that value independent thinking, counter-culture, progressive politics, an appreciation of art and indie-rock, creativity, intelligence, and witty banter.

(Urban Dictionary)

Fashion for Women

Some women are very trendy. Some women kind of roll with their own style (I like that). You can see it in their personality. How they carry themselves and what they take pride in when they dress. Over the pass couple of years (2011-2013) I’ve noticed a shift in fashion and women. And maybe this is just me. Maybe I am the only one that thinks this way, but it seems as though women now believe that less is good, and more is bad. Confused? Yeah me to. This is what I am talking about:





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Ideally, how you dress is going to determine who approaches you (and how). What they say and how they say it. Let’s be real here. If you are half-dressed, don’t be surprised if some dude is trying to get your number with a pick up line from the Fresh Prince of Bell Air (Nothing against Fresh Prince , Will had some nice pickup lines.ahah) But do you really want the first thing a guy’s says to be a pick up line? If so? Again, that is your personal preference, and maybe, just maybe he is a nice guy as well. But again, this is up to you.

Will in Action:

I hear it all the time: Women: I always attract the bad guys. Women: I can’t find Mr. Right. Women: He was nice for the first few months. You cannot help who likes you. But you are responsible for who you let in the door. Sure, you may have had some so-called “bad luck” but what are you doing to better the opportunity the next time:

Double Check:

Before you leave the door. When you are going out with friends. On a date with a guy. What ever it is, ask yourself (honestly), would your mother wear this? What you are thinking: My mom is 45 obviously she wouldn’t wear what I am wearing. What you are thinking: Obviously not, my mom is too old to wear what I wear. What you are thinking: No way. It wouldn’t make sense, what are you talking about.

Think about it: Would your mom wear this?

You do not have to go and ask your mom what to wear. Or is this okay. It is about being respectful of yourself and your body. Guys will be guys (trust me I know, I am a guy) And some of them, simply do not care, what they say to women. Some of them are very selective, and they know (or think they know) what or who you are by what you wear. Do not get me wrong, I love when women dress up and look nice (When it comes easy). I hate when they try too hard. Or go to far over the top.

What women look good in:



Women look good in respect. Confidence in their body. And a dignity they carry when they present themselves to the world. Women look good in a smile. A laugh. Smart. Understanding of what looks good and what it means to be sexy.

Women are the most beautiful living things on earth. Don’t ruin it by trying to be someone you are not. Or making the obvious wrong fashion choice.

Remember: Would your mom wear this?


BeAwesome:#278 Disappointment

BeAwesome: #278 Disappointment

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope- Martin Luther King Jr. 




Getting into something you are not fully experienced in doesn’t matter. I’ve noticed (most recently) that your best future is made from disappointment. Your determination. Your desire. Is all made from failure (or mistakes). Our let downs. Trying to spread a concept to the world is fun. Getting the support is easy when you have a lot of friends. Or a group of individuals you can trust. But how do you reach those who you do not know. How do you tell the rest of the world that you have an idea. Stores and universities have shut me down. I’ve been told that BE…AWESOME fad. And will eventually die a slow death. Now. I can believe all of this if I want. I can stop trying to motivate others to be nice and believe in themselves. I can stop. Or I can take disappointment. And turn it into something worth appreciating. What will I do. I guess time will tell.


The feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the fulfillment of ones hopes or expectations. Let down. Frustration. Chagrin. Disillusionment. One cannot go through life without a let down. Something that makes you sad. A feeling that bothers you. A different anger. A different feeling. Disappointment is what causes individuals who are mediocre to be great. Disappointment is what turns dreams into reality. A slow effort. Or lack of desire. To commitment. Disappointment creates change. Take your saddest moment and find something positive about it. Use it with you. Not against  you.


Those who are AWESOME use disappointment. We take changes. And understand that a possible outcome may be or result in what we do not want. Understanding the reasons why things happen. Being patient. Using a tough, heartfelt situation to bring joy. Using a tear to create a future.