If I was your Bestfriend, I’d want you Round All the Time

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Do you currently have a best friend? Or someone you know you can depend on when times get tough, need a laugh or share a secret? If you want to find someone, most people have to wait or build  years of trust, commitment and understanding before this title is given. Best friends don’t magically appear in thin air (do they?). They usually come unexpected and are built on experiences you go through together.

How do you find a best friend?

What qualities do you look for?

Most children by the age of 3-5, according to AboutOurKids.com have developed an imaginary friend. Why are imaginary friends good? Well they usually do what ever you want, never talk back and disappear upon request. They also prepare you for when a “real” friend comes a long. If you have never had a best friend, practice with an imagery friend. Best friends talk back!

Finding the Right Person

It is not easy to find someone you enjoy being around, enjoy talking to and don’t mind telling stories to. Some of these experiences, that you cherish are not meant for “just” anyone. You want to share them with people you care about (just a little bit more than everyone else). Finding the right person is often the part most people don’t understand. 1. You can’t make someone into your best friend & 2. Don’t pressure them into doing so.

I have 4 really good friends. These are people I’ve shared experiences, stories and secrets with. They understand me because we’ve gone through most of these experiences together. We’ve bonded and created a trust that is unspoken. Years of ups and downs, and experiences that relied on trust and commitment have passed, and the outcome is people who I consider “best friends”.

I didn’t go looking for these people. And they didn’t go looking for me either. I strongly believe “best friends” just happen. It isn’t something you can’t sign up for, unless you’ve seen bestfriendmatch.com, a place supposedly that allows you to find your best friend. Pretty dumb if you ask me. Either way, it is going to take a lot of work to find this individual(s).

Where do I look?

Before you go out on a wild goose chase, look right in front of you. Give someone a chance to be a part of your life. And if they aren’t exactly what you are looking for, kindly show them by giving them less information and spending less time with them. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person, it simply means you have other things to do, and that person “should” understand that. You have every right to pick and choose who you want to share information with, or allow to enter your life (on a personal level). Never allow anyone to pressure you into doing so.

 Often people who are best friends have a variety of things in common. And sometimes they are total opposite. You can’t go walking in the park thinking you are going to find the perfect friend because you love parks. Does that make sense? No. You have to simply enjoy every encounter, and if you feel there is potential, open up a little and slowly build the trust and commitment you are looking for. WARNING: Blowing the doors off a conversation is a big no, no.  What is blowing the doors off? Giving too much personal information when not needed or asked.

What Happens When I Think They Are the One

Umm. How about ask them? May sound a little silly, but why not? At least you’ll know for sure. If they haven’t popped the question, why can’t you. The worst thing they can say is no right? Some people are too perfect to ask, will you be my friend? Better yet, will you be my best friend? When you are older it is a lot more difficult. When you are younger, you have no idea what you are doing anyways, and you could care less about the results because eventually someone will (hopefully) say yes.

Slowly give information to this individual and (IF) they share back, you have potential right away. If they do not, back off a little and see what they say next. If you still see potential, ask them a question and see if they tell you a sincere answer. If they do not, maybe they need a little more time with you to open up. Or maybe they are not the right person. Note: You can’t share information and expect information to be shared back. Most people don’t operate that way. And remember,  YOU are volunteering to share information, they never asked you to do so.

Take it slow, and ride it out. Be careful with your questions and see how they respond:

Sample questions you could use:

1. Do you have brothers or sisters?/Follow up question: What do they do for a living?

2. What do you like to do for fun? /Follow up question: Do you prefer to do this with friends or alone and why?

3. Who is the most important person in your life? Follow up question: Why?

Use this to get a feel for who the person is, and what they value in a person.

How do I ask a FRIEND out?

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You’ve finally built a relationship with your new friend and you are bored. You want to ask them to do something and you have no idea what you want to do. Before anything, friendship stuff is never usually planned. The first 2 or 3 outings are usually organized really well between the two of you. Everything else after turns into a “your going with me right?” or “I need you to come with me”. And that is what you want it to be like. Unfortunately, you end up doing things you additionally do not want to do, but more often than not you have a good time, and your friend appreciates you a little more for coming with them.

If you are looking for ideas with your new best friend here are some options:

1. Simply hang out and watch re-runs of old television shows

2. Eat ice cream/Order food and gossip (Gossip is bad, but builds relationships)

3. Make pretend you have to go on an errand to the mall or to the grocery store

4. Help babysit a little sister/brother/or animal (dogs are cute)

5. Make pretend you need help fixing something, but have it fixed before they come, offer to stay for a cup of tea or hot chocolate

Conclusion

Best friends can’t be packed and delivered to your front doorstep. If you think you can turn someone into that person you are creating a fire that is going to be very difficult to put out. Give others the time to breathe and make a decision on their own. The best friends are found through experience or surprise. Some people find friends instantly and some people need time. If you honour every conversation and interaction you have with new people, you will slowly see who you want to become closer with. With that, you have to understand that everyone you feel connected with, may not necessarily feel the same way about you. Either way, that doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.

Do you have another way of making friends? How do you know someone is going to be a BFF? Contact use through Twitter: @BeAwesomenow_ca or Facebook: BeAwesomenow . We’d love to hear your response!

Until next time!

#BeAwesome

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Change is good :-)

I always enjoyed change. Whether it was trying something new in a restaurant or reading a new book, I’ve always embraced the not so common in my life. Last year I decided to teach in a foreign country, meet new friends and travel the world. For me, change has always brought the best out of me, and given me ways to learn more about myself.

Yes, it was completely out of the ordinary to move and teach in Kuwait. But if you stay with the status quo and do things that have been already been done, how will you create a legacy for yourself. If you are content with being similar to the person next to you, by any means continue to stay normal. If you ever want to be extraordinary, do things people think you can’t do.

When I think about change, I think about why I am doing it, and what I can get from it. From there, I think about whether or not this change is going to be good for me in the long run. Some people create drastic changes right away without doing the research first, or really thinking about their decision, which is fine but very risky and leaves no room for error.

Opportunities to change help your critical thinking skills. It demands deep thoughts and a rough sketch of your ideas. The changes in my life have allowed me to grow as a person, learn from my mistakes and begin to make decision on my own. Here are 3 reasons why change is good:

One: Change is an adventure

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I can definitely be the person to tell you that change is an adventure. It takes you outside of your comfort zone and makes you figure out things on your own. With that said, you do receive some help along the way, but for the most part, the final say goes through you. The idea of this adventure is to explore and see what is out there, what can you use from this experience to create a better you.

Two: Change is learning

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Some people run from change. A regular way of living is to just go with the flow, allow things to happen, and simply do what ever you are asked. That said, change creates learning experiences that you can only receive on your own. At the end of the day, you need to be able to adjust when things are thrown at you from different angles. You are not always going to have someone to help you. You are not always going to have the pitch right down the middle. Change allows you to work on these skills and start doing things truly because you believe in them.

Three: Change is Opportunity

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When I think about opportunities, and the possibilities of doing exactly what I want to do in life, I become overjoyed and excited for the changes that are about to happen once I pursue them. Opportunities come and go, the tricky part is deciding which one or two (or even three) you want to pursue and go with. Change allows you to explore these options. It opens many doors, and closes many as well.

Conclusion

You can probably think of a variety of reasons why change is good. The more you grow and explore, challenge yourself to do new things, you will realize the learning and growth that happens when you decide to make changes in your life. Ask questions and take risk. Be careful and mindful of your thoughts, and embrace difference.

How to deal with Making Mistakes

Why making mistakes are key to success:

A lot of people make mistakes. Sorry. Everyone makes mistakes. We do things that do not work. We try things knowing the possibilities of messing up or doing something wrong. Every day we do/ or go through something that we did not plan, or would have liked to work a little differently. That’s life. We sometimes have a hard time dealing with mistakes because we tend to believe all things should go a certain way to benefit from them. As I grow older, I realize more and more, how much this is not true.

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Give 99% to the Task at hand & 1% to the after thought

When you do something that involves the possibility of messing up/or doing something wrong (which is almost everything) you have to go into, what ever it is you are doing, thinking about the greatest possibility. The best-case scenario. Of course the mishaps and fear of failure will come to mind. Bu that is not what you are trying to focus on. Try not to allow your insecurities to take over your thoughts and performance. You have to prepare as if you’ve already won, but hindsight understand what may or may not occur after.  I look at it like this, give 99% or your energy to the good of what can happen, and 1% to what may become a disappointment. Why? I tend to believe that disappointment should be dealt with when it arrives. Why think about disappointment before it happens? It takes away energy, and often causes one to second-guess themselves. Once the occasion is over, that is when you go back to the drawing board to think more about the 1% you discussed with yourself before the event.

Realization:

Everyone needs to come to a realization that we fail. We fail, and we fail often. It is a part of life and that is what happens when you try to do things to better yourself. The only way you can overcome something, and make the best out of life, is to fail and fail miserably. Once you understand that failing is an option, your mind can easily re-focus if failing takes place. Being trapped with the thought of success (to believe you will never fail) you are sitting yourself up for disappointment and an ultimate meltdown. Being real is an important part of life. It means understanding the possibilities, and what may happen. Be a realist. Be confident in the direction you are going, but stay humble when things do not go the way you want them to. Already know, before it happens what your next plan is if failure occurs.

New Beginning:

Find a way to love new beginnings.  One thing I love about failing is the opportunity to start over. Because you’ve already gone through the process of dealing with the ups and downs of your occasion, you now have a better understanding of what is needed to be successful (this understanding can be hard to find). The groundwork has already been done, and now you have to go back and evaluate what you can do to make this occasion better/successful next time. Take something from the beginning experience and learn from it. Make adjustments and apply them. We often fail and forget how we got where we are in the first place. Relax. New beginnings spark new interest, ideas, and ways of doing things.

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Trail and Error is what we go through in life. We try something to see if it works. If it doesn’t work we try it again or we give up. It is that simple. Are you going to allow a mistake to dictate your future or influence the path YOU want in life? It is entirely up to you. Use mistakes to further your life and make things less complicated. Don’t allow disappoint to influence your future dreams. Keep following the path you want, and experience as much as you can while doing so

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Put your BIG BOY pants on!

If you had the chance to read my last blog you probably know that I’ve been really busy. School is wrapping up, and ever day it feels like I have something else I have to  complete. A bit overwhelmed to say the lease. With that, I found myself thinking to often, and spending too much time on negative thoughts and energy. How can I do this? What if this doesn’t work? I spent a lot of time worrying about the what if? and how comes? These are all questions that make our bodies and minds think negatively or upset about something instantly. We carry these questions with us for days and until we find answers. Some of us carry these questions for months and years.

I started acting different. My response to simple conversation. Daily interactions with others. Emails. Phone calls. Everything. And you know what, it wasn’t me. I spent one day apologizing to everyone I thought I made upset. All because of one or two things I was unsure about. Then I thought, why am I making these individuals suffer because of my problems. Or my issues. What do I need to do to get out of this slump?

To do this, I normally tell myself “Put your Big Boy Pants on” and stop complaining. Take a look at the bigger picture, and realize that things aren’t so bad. For starters I look at my surroundings and block out anything that bothers me. Anything that is negatively affecting my goals or dreams. If you have a goal you need to protect it. Some people do not realize when they are stopping others from doing what they love. You need to harness that mindset and make changes that are going to affect your future in a good way.Block out the frustration by looking forward to the big picture. Life is about taking the necessary steps to reach your ultimate goals. Everything in between is called a “lesson” or “experience”. You should never allow a lesson or experience that is taking place, overcome and shadow your ultimate goals.

Take a look at the BIG PICTURE. Once you have this picture in your mind, you can always find ways to benefit from negative experiences you go through in life. That worry (or thought) that continuously plays in your head. The negative emotions and feelings you have about something or someone. Once, you “flip the script” and make it into a learning experience, your mindset and mood should change. Think about the advantages you have, privileges, opportunities and blessing. Is that moment of frustration worth more than all of that? I highly doubt it. We get lost in conflict, and disappear in what we call “life”. We start to see it and talk about it, but forget to live it.

“Next you need to pull up your big boy pants and tap into a mindset that allows you to block out the frustration”- Kobe

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My thoughts came from Kobe Bryant on this years 2012-2013,Los Angeles Lakers, and Pau Gasol. Kobe speaks on Pau, “Put your big-boy pants on,” Kobe said with a trace of disgust in his voice. “C’mon … just adjust. You can’t whine about it or complain about it. Heck, I’m 34 years old, and I’m running screen-and-rolls out there because Steve is out, and my ass is running up and down the court more than I ever have in my entire career. But you have to adjust to it”. One thing I always find about great pro athletes are that they are able to overcome incredible odds and disfavour by simply adjusting the way they think. 

There comes a point and time in life were you simply have to stop all the complaining. Feeling sorry for yourself. Making excuses as to why things are the way they are. Making other individuals lives miserable because you think yours is as well. Take an oath, and start creating and environment that allows you to exceed beyond expectation. Stop thinking negatively about yourself. Stop allowing others to dictate what you do and how you do it. Put your big boy pants on and lead your future. Hey, if this does not interest you, others will gladly do it for you. That is all for now.

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Be AWESOME Updates: New Line, Awesome Project, YouTube Collaboration and MORE!

Before anything, I would like to apologize for haven’t posting anything in a while. Things have been really busy here in Kuwait over the past number of weeks. In and between teaching and report cards, and finalizing some big ideas for the worlds fastest growing motivational brand, its been a ride I am sure I will never forget.

So what’s new:

My Life: Besides the 25 report cards I had to finish this week. The grades being entered into the computer. The NBA playoffs (My poor Clippers). Being sick (cold or some sort of flu). The past few weeks have been very challenging for me. I must say, I’ve had times were I looked myself in the computer screen (because that is where I usually am) and asked myself, is it worth it. And directly after these thoughts, I asked myself, why would I even think that. I believe that if you are trying to help others in ANY kind of what it is worth it. It is worth the heart ache. The pain and the suffering. So if you are out there like me, trying to make a difference in anyones life, through friendship, parenting, mentoring, anything! Don’t feel down or upset about it. Don’t let your ego, or hard work get in the way of making someone else’s life more fulfilling. Believe in good faith, and all that good faith will come back to you. Keep grinding everyone!

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The NewsLetter: If you haven’t already you please check out our splash page. www.beawesomenow.ca Notice the .CA (yes I am Canadian) if you did not know.ahah Oh. Canada! We are going to release a news letter a week, that will let everyone know what we are doing as an organization, and what they can look forward to as we prep for a crazy and fulfilled summer.

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Charities/Organizations: We’ve locked down a number of cool charities and NGO’s that we are really excited about. We are unable to confirm their involvement just yet because of paper work that has to be filed and returned. We currently have 6 that are really interested, and 3 that have confirmed they want to get involved! For a start, that is AWESOME. The tough part about this is, I am still me. My friends know me, my followers (kinda know me), and these individuals, do not know me at all. I understand that it is hard to trust people now a days, and that is what I am trying to build this company with “TRUST”. To those of you who’ve given me the go, and have shown the smallest amount of interest, I am honoured and I thank you for that! Stay in the loop for more on these organizations and what they have to offer. We will be working with some awesome people!

Website: For me this has been the most challenging part of my early stages of building this brand. In the past it was easy (well not easy, but sort of in a way that I needed to get things and the word out there as fast as possible) things were kind of rushed, and not done professionally (in my opinion). This time everything is being done in progress. We are taking the steps to make this company “real”. Not just an online store. Not just a fancy website with cool pictures. We are going to re-vamp the way you look at websites and the value of information you receive.

Our new look is clean, photo heavy, and dependent on motivation and inspiration by you. You will find daily motivation to keep you going. Clean images for reminders of what life really means. People and stories to think about. We are giving you a place to come, relax, take some time out of your day and really find the meaning of life. What we have so far is #AWESOME. I cannot say more, about the guys at www.qnacreatives.com and what they’ve done for me as a new company. All I can say is stay tuned! You are sure to be impressed by our decisions on this website.

awesome10New Line: Lots of exciting news in regards to our new line and what we’ve decided to do with what the world provides to us. We are changing the look and feel of the shirts “entirely”. New logo’s (as you can see), new designs but the same motivation and purpose. We’ve taken a sweat-shop free approach to our-line that includes a number of incentives that we will release through our newsletter. We are excited about this change and we hope you are to. Our fitted tees and sweaters will be more dry, comfy and motivational. We plan to release a number of limited edition products as well.

The Awesome Project: If you haven’t read the news letter, I will give you a little run down, as to what this is all about. This project is about spreading Awesome around the world. We’ve decided that how else can we do this, other than taking a boat load of tees around the world each year and spreading them to everyone we possibly see and contact ourselves with. People on the airplane, restaurants, playgrounds, villages, families, schools, teams, you name it. Our goal is to visit 5 continents in 5 years and give out 200+ tees to a given country, state or province in each continent. Again, stay in the loop for more information on this project and how you can get involved!

Topic - Youtube-676854Youtube collaboration: I can’t give you too much on this until I sign the papers and send the information BUT let’s just say Be Awesome will (inshallah) be working with and up and coming YouTube start on a new Be Awesome Commercial!

 

 

-BeAwesome

The NEW WEBSITE SPLASH PAGE

Hello friends,

Here is a bit of what me and some really talented people (www.qnacreatives.com) have been working on for the best few months. With lots of help and guidance, Be Awesome is taking its level of professionalism, quality and branding to the next level. Why? Well that is what YOU deserve. The support and overwhelming messages received from family, friends and strangers (love me some strangers) have been great. We had no choice but to make this thing a little more than just a brand. We are now officially a lifestyle brand. Promoting a way of life. A purpose. Look for more exciting news to come. This is only the beginning 🙂 Visit our new Facebook page: Beawesomenow

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THE TIME IS NOW PEOPLE! BE AWESOME!

When things get rough? #DONTQUIT

331: When things get tough

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The Don’t Quit 

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,


When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,


As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about,

When he might have won had he stuck it out;


Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–

You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,

It seems to a faint and faltering man,


Often the struggler has given up,

When he might have captured the victor’s cup,

And he learned too late when the night slipped down,

How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are,


It may be near when it seems so far,

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

 -Unknown Author

-BeAwesome