How to Survive the First Month of School

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Is your first day of school coming up? Are you wondering what your new teacher is going to be like? What pair of nikes you are going to use to sway new friends? What parties and exams are you going to skip or make a priority? What sport teams are you going to watch or try out for? How close is the nearest grocery store, and can I make it in my slippers?

It is about that time of the year again, back to school! For me, that means new kids, new parents, and new desire to inspire young minds to believe in themselves and be nice to one another. The summer is gone, and it is back to the grind in the classroom for many of us around the world.

 

Let’s talk about September

What are the main concerns of an elementary student? 1. Is my teacher going to be nice 2. What do I have for recess? When I was little, every year I would wonder if my teacher was going to be nice, or if I had to watch out for the Big Bad Wolf, or did mom pack my Dunkaroos, or will I have to trade my sandwich with another classmate. As we get older, these thoughts continue to run through our heads, only in slightly different context. 1. Will I meet new friends or like my boss/or professor 2. I should have ate breakfast today/I need to pack a lunch.

September is crucial to your survival in your new setting. The first month will separate the men from the boys. The women from the girls. Your idea and perception of your new setting and experience will be fresh. Your ears will be alert and your mind and body will be focused on the task at hand. But for how long? Some of us will be entering a new school. Some of us will be going back to a similar setting after the summer holidays. Either way, September is the start of the “new” year. How do you have a great start?

 

The First Impression is Key

Don’t show up to school in hammy down’s aka hand me down’s. I am not saying go out and buy the most expensive pair of shoes or t-shirt, I am saying take care of your self and look presentable. Carol Goman writes, “that moment that stranger sees you, his or her brain makes thousands of computations: Are you someone to approach or to avoid? Are you friend or foe? Do you have status and authority? Are your trustworthy, competent, likeable, confident?

 The decision of others and whether or not they will like or even deal with you are made quickly (7 seconds). Leave a great impression and you are well  on your way to an excellent week during the first month of school. Say hello to your collages. Shake the hand of your professor or teacher. Really mean what you say when talking to new people. Do the little things that count. Put in the work early and everything else is smooth sailing!

 Keep smiling

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Being a teacher, I understand what it feels like to be exhausted from smiling and shaking hands with people you typically have nothing in common with or have know desire to be long-time friends with (sounds cruel but it is true). You can’t be best friends with everyone BUT you can be a great acquaintance. People can love to be around you even though they never see you.  Just keep smiling, just keep smiling, just keep smiling, smiling, smiling. Know one said you had to be everyone’s bestie on the first day. Smile, be polite and shake hands with everyone (use sanitizer often). This again, goes with your first impression. People will always remember your first encounter. This will set you up for easier interactions down the road.

Stay ahead of the Game

In my first year of university (for lack of better word) I sucked! I flat-out didn’t know what was doing, decided to watch sports instead of study, went for walks instead of reading and ate cereal to distract me from assignments. To often we allow ourselves to fall behind. We overlook what is ahead of us, and hope that it will magically complete itself the night before

Surviving September is about Staying a head of the Game. Sure, your friends will want to party. Your boyfriend will want to cuddle. Your friends will want to hangout and chat it up, talk about stuff you necessarily do not want to talk about anyway. Than don’t do it! When you are given an assignment, start it. You don’t have to finish it, but at least look and see what you have to do to complete it. A lesson plan, prepare for the week. Heck, prepare for the month if you have the time. A project to fulfill, do the research. Get the resources and be ready to produce some quality work.

Make a list of priorities and “at least”get started before the week that they are due. We all know what it feels like when Wednesday comes along, and you have a 4000 word essay due on Auscultation and Bromhidrosis by Thursday. Yeah, I don’t know what they mean either.

Don’t allow yourself to get in this position. Force yourself to make a list of up and coming due dates, and get started right away. The best feeling in the world is knowing that you are done something, when everyone else is scratching to make a deadline.

For me, I make a monthly schedule, of what I want to accomplish, by priority. I take 15-20 index cards, put a hole in each  one of them, and tie a string to hold them tight. I often check my dates and make sure I am on schedule. I see priority and needs and attack those ideas first. Life is a party, you will always have time for that. Friends will understand if they are true friends. Everyone else doesn’t matter.

Conclusion

September is the start of a new year. It is not quite, champagne and balloons yet, but it represents a new beginning. Every September students and professionals go back to the grind. Don’t be that person who, talks about doing things and never get’s it done. We all talk about this person and often fall in the same category at times. Put your words into action and do what it takes to be a head. What are you going to do to make this “new”year better than any other year?

As years go by, you will slowly understand the preparation, both mentally and physically to start fresh, and get off to a good start. The only people I know that can start poorly and still win are Usain Bolt, Michael Phelps, Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzky and Muhammad Ali. I guess and a few others. Once you get on their laugh, you’ll have nothing to worry about 😉

Start the grind early!

In the mean time, continue to #BeAwesome

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BeAwesome: A Letter From A Weirdo

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ReadCarefully

Dear Normal People,

I am sorry I am not like you. I am sorry I cannot go through life with a normal schedule and set plan. I apologize. I am sorry for being myself. Doing what I want and following my dreams. I apologize. I am sorry. I am sorry for not publishing my relationship status on facebook. I will be sure to update you on my love life very soon. I am sorry. I apologize. I am sorry that I enjoy time alone. Reading or Writing. I know that is strange so I am sorry. I apologize. Sorry for wanting to see the world and explore different cultures and backgrounds. I am aware that this may change my view on life, so I am sorry. I apologize. I am sorry for praying every morning before I go to school. I know you do not understand why I do this, so I am sorry. I apologize. I am sorry for being a teacher. I know males are not supposed to teach, so I am sorry. I apologize. I am sorry for being black and and wanting to be successful. I know you see the world in one color so I am sorry. I apologize. I am sorry for being motivated and trying to learn. Gather more information about life and how to treat people. I am sorry. I apologize. I am sorry you do not see my view on life. Being nice to people and believing in yourself. Taking chances and making mistakes. I am sorry. I apologize. I am sorry for liking Disney. And for eating lots of junk food. I am sorry. I am sorry I do not smoke and know longer drink. I know I ruined the party. So I am sorry. I apologize. I know this letter is getting long so I will stop now, I am sorry.

Yours, Sincerely

Weirdo

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You should never have to apologize for who you are. If you find yourself doing so, STOP. You are allowing others to define you. How you should talk.What you should wear.The things you should do. Everyone is not going to like you. Unfortunately this is how life works. Find the common ground between the person in the mirror and who you present on a daily basis. Be yourself. Stop caring about what others think. Find all the reasons in the world to love yourself. Be a weirdo. Be different. It is okay. Follow your mind but take your heart with you.

-BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #316 Schedule (Tips on how to make a successful Schedule)

BEAWESOME: #316 Schedule (Tips on how to make a successful Schedule)

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Scheduling (for me is great) it is something I use daily to keep track of what I want to complete and what I want to start the following day. A lot of us hate to make schedules because they are reminders of the things we technically “ do not “want to do. It does not have to be this way. Create a schedule of things you like. And look forward to as well. But never put things on the back burner that are important.

Do you need a schedule?

It depends how busy you are. And rightfully so, do you want to start it. Anyone can create a schedule, but not everyone is going to follow through now are they. Schedules depend on life and responsibilities, priorities, interest and commitments. You may not need a schedule. Some people simply have no matter worth keeping track of.  They like to do what ever they like when they like and it often never affects anyone.

Benefits:

Those who are successful (often/not all the time) use schedules. Why? When using a schedule you are able to organize a variety of things at once. It helps you coordinate a variety of activities with the rest of your life. For starters, remember to write down important dates. When you see important dates, you are reminded of how much time you have before this date will arrive, and what you can do in between before this date finally comes.

 What really matters vs what kind of matters

A schedule takes away the surprise of forgetting and remembering (followed by panic or hyperventilating) It gives you time, or and outlook on what you need to do in this amount of time.

When creating a schedule you often run into conflict or trouble. Things do not always go perfectly. The good thing is, you’ve already thought about this conflict 10-20 days before it has happened (if you created the schedule). The juggling, mixing and matching, the perfect order is tough to manage and put together but it works when done correctly. The fact of the matter is, sometimes you cannot do everything you want. Sometimes you forget and spend too much time on something that should only take a few minutes. Creating a balanced schedule is not easy.

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How to create an AWESOME schedule:

–       Write down what is important (On your schedule-Circle/Highlight/Underline)

–       Needs vs Wants (On your schedule-Circle/Highlight/Underline)

Do you need to get this done? Or is this something you want to get done?

Understand the differences and what is important to you at the time.

–       Remember within your schedule you have to eat and sleep

(How much and how long is entirely up to you) I will be different for everyone

–       Make sure your schedule is full of things you love to do

If your schedule is created and you see that the “don’t want to do’s” out weigh the “love to do’s”, you need to really think more about your scheduling

–       If you cannot do something, say you cannot do it

A lot of people will take on too much, and find themselves in a jam by the end of the week or month. Do enough to be satisfied. But leave enough to keep you motivated.

–       Go through with it

If you create a schedule, follow through with it. It is giving you the responsibility and ownership of what goes on in your life.

– Find time for friends and family

Very important

       – Remember to be nice to people and believe in yourself

BeAwesome

BeAwesome: #253 Coach ( @Ericthomasbtc )

BeAwesome: #253 Coach (@Ericthomasbtc )

When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful. – Eric Thomas.

Eric Thomas
Coach/Motivator.

Now coaching is not for everyone. But I do believe coaching has a place in everyone’s heart. This type of coaching does not necessarily mean you have to organize or run a team or a sport.   It does not mean you have to play against another group of individuals. To coach is to instruct an individual/or group with your knowledge. To encourage others to do their very best all the time. To allow others to blossom and chase their dreams. To motivate and inspire others to go beyond expectations. To be an example. To want to get better at what you love to do. Setting goals and trying to meet them. To coach is to educate. Those who are AWESOME coach. Consistent reminders to others about their goals. Consistent positive action. We find a way that allows others to become comfortable in pursuing what they enjoy the most. Coach

Mr. Eric Thomas (The Hip Hop Preacher) is a true coach. He is extremely motivating. True. He is that guy who is willing to tell you what you do/and do not want to hear regardless of your situation. His words are simple and make sense. His message is uplifting and causes you to want to go beyond your expectations in life. He makes you want more out of success. He explains what it means to work hard. Quality over Quantity. Sweat over tears. His clever way of encouraging others is a gift. A gift that he works hard on every day. His knowledge and excitement about helping others is what motivates his push to change the thinking of others around the world (So I think so anyways). His story is amazing.

Presently, Thomas has a popular YouTube channel where his weekly “TGIM” – Thank God It’s Monday – videos are helping people change their perspective on what it means to be successful and happy. Take a look at TGIM

Quotes from ET:

– Don’t make a habit out of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you

 –You cannot afford to live in potential for the rest of your life; at some point, you have to unleash the potential and make your move(ment)

– Things change for the better when we take responsibility for our own thoughts, decisions and actions.

For more on Eric Thomas please visit his website

to become motivated.

Order his book: Here

The Secret to Success

-Be Awesome

PS: If you read this Mr. Thomas. Thank you for changing my sleeping habits ahahha

BeAwesome: #230 Recruit

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We try to recruit good players and good people- Tim Buckley 

Recruit..

Recruiting is a difficult process. With so many views and separate morals in life, it is hard to ask an individual to follow your lead. With that, I suggest keeping it simple. Recruit those who want to follow a dream. Recruit those who want to believe in themselves and make a difference in the world we live in. Recruit those who care about giving and helping others. Recruit and built a team of supporters who want to support themselves, you and the people around them. It is hard to find individuals who want to work hard now a days. It is hard to find individuals who believe after the struggle comes success. Recruit individuals who believe and have good faith. It is one thing to say it, and talk it. It means another to actually do it. Those who are AWESOME recruit. We try to help others find what they love and encourage them to do it. Recruit

-BeAwesome